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ALERT, ALERT, ALERT!
Do not I repeat do not go and spend $70.00 on CurlFormers! You can save $54.00 by purchasing the knockoffs and they work just as good. I just purchased the knockoffs last week and boy oh boy am I happy that I saved some money I was so close to spending that $70.00.
In case you don't know Curlformers allow you to have
wonderful curls without the use of heat. Read my post after this one for more information and tips!
Brand: Vakind Hair Curler
Purchase Through: Amazon
Cost: 15.98 + shipping
Cyber Monday Price: $13.55
Total in Package: 40
Delivery Speed: Ordered on a Monday and they arrived on Wednesday yes in the same week!
Difference from Curlformers: The material is a little different and the hook is not as sturdy as the CurlFormer hook but to me it seemed fine.
Tutorial Video: Coming Soon
Do you ever get bored with wearing twists, twist outs,
puffs, pin up styles, and blow outs well if the answer is yes I feel the same
way. I love change, I love to wear my
hair in different styles and it has taken me a long time to get here but I’m
ready to wear my hair in some spiral curls!
I kept thinking how can I create curls that I can do myself
without the use of a curling iron and instantly I thought Curlformers!!
give you instant spiral curls without the use of heat. You can purchase Curlformers from your local
Sally’s Beauty Supply Store. Curlformers
come 40 in a pack and they come in different sizes. They are not cheap let me tell you and I
don’t want to even mention the price but they are close to $60.00, yes you read
right no need to blink twice $60.00 is the cost! Now being the frugal person I am you know
I’ve thought long and hard about purchasing these and you ask how long, lets
just say a year of thinking! Lol The reason why I’m going to purchase Curlformers is the benefits. The benefits are instant
curls without using heat, not having to worry about heat damage and they will
You know that scene in the Color Purple where their playing
patty cake singing “Me and You Us Neva Part” that’s how I’m going to be with these
Tips on using Curlformers:
Section Hair into 6 to 8 sections
- Make sure your hair is clean and damp
- Start from the back of your hair when applying
curlformer and make small parts not large
- You can apply your favorite butter/cream or
even a setting lotion to your hair before adding the curlformer (I would advise
putting on your leave in first before the butter or setting lotion)
If you want your hair to have a nice hold with
shine, Lottabody Setting Lotion will
give you that but you must dilute it with water. “Dilute for hair type. On normal hair: 2 to 3
parts water to 1 part Lottabody. On tinted hair and bleached hair: 4 to 5 parts
water to 1 part Lottabody. Apply to damp hair. Comb through evenly. Blow style
or set. If hair dries before set is finished, add more as needed” (this is an
old school setting lotion but it works)
- You can either air dry your hair or sit under a
dryer (I will let mine air dry)
- Make sure your hair is completely dry before
taking them out
Have you used Curlformers if so how did you like them?
Please leave comments below.
Stay tuned for my video tutorial on CurlFormers.
Until next time Ladies May God Bless You!
Natural Hair Expo Experience
On Saturday, September 28, 2013 I had the pleasure to be on a Panel at The Naturally ReDefined Natural Hair Expo in Delaware at the University of Delaware. This was an awesome natural hair event and I am so grateful to have gotten a chance to experience being on a panel for the first time with such wonderful women! The panel Discussion was on the Does and Don'ts of Natural hair as you see from the flyer in the photos.
I also took part in a Vlogger/Blogger mixer and had the opportunity to meet other wonderful women who share the love of natural hair!
I wanted to share this experience with you because I believe with Christ all things are possible. I never would have thought that little ole me would be speaking on panels let alone having my photo on a major outlet such as Essence!
I encourage you to step out on faith and go forth with your dreams, goals or desires and remember don't let your situation dictate your future!
Until Next Time Ladies!
My Updated Hair Regimen update 12/2/2013
Step by step regimen:
1. I section my hair into 4 and each section is held into place with a claw clamp. Two big twist in the top and two in the back.
2. I take one section down at a time and shampoo and rinse making sure to pay special attention to my scalp. Then I twist that section and clamp it back into place.
3. Undo one section at a time and apply conditioner. I leave the conditioner on my hair for about 30 minutes to an hour.
4. Then taking one section down at a time I rinse out the conditioner.
5. Taking down one section at a time and seperating those into smaller sections I take my wide tooth comb I detangle.
5. Then I Apply
my moisturizer by smoothing it on my hair using the praying hands motion.
I apply my twisting butter by smoothing that onto my hair as well making sure
to get the ends.
I apply my jojoba oil to seal in the moisture.
I twist my hair.
leave the twists in for one full day and the next day I take them down wearing
a twist out style.
re-twist my hair every other night if needed.
I always sleep in a satin scarf or bonnet.
I repeat numbers 4-8 for each section of hair!
The moral, CHANGE IS GOOD!
Until Next Time Ladies!
NATURAL'S TOP 10 Do and Don't LIST
you can click on photo's to enlarge them!
1. Don’t think you are better than someone else
because you made the choice to know longer have relaxed hair. If a person chooses to have their scalp burn like
it’s on fire and thinning hair that’s on them!
2. If a person whose hair is natural and they
decide to color their hair, don’t make them feel bad for wanting to add a
little spice or be different.
3. Don’t go out and try to recruit others to go
natural if that person has not asked you about natural hair. They’ll probably just look at you and say
Girllll Ain’t Nobody Got Time fo That and walk off! Lol
4. Do give compliments, for example - If a woman’s
hair is relaxed, she’s wearing a weave or wig and the hair style is cute don’t
be afraid to compliment her! It’s
Okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy (Some people
with natural hair only compliment others who have natural hair)
5. Don’t talk about someone else whose hair is not
natural and you say your hair is natural and everything about you is natural but
you wear color contacts, have press on nails, wear fake eyelashes, paint on
your eyebrows etc. I’m just saying
keeping it 100, check yourself first boo!
(photo fake lady from movie I'm Gone Git You Sucka) 6. Don’t date a man who says he only dates women
whose hair is natural. Just give him the
side eye cause something ain’t right or
like my Granny Esther would say Dead Cat! Lol
7. Don’t go out of your house with a bonnet or silk
scarf on your head. Aunt Jemima should
only be represented on the pancake box not out in public! (they even took her scarf off on the new box)
8. Do pick healthy hair over length any day.
It’s not cute if your hair is down your back
but it’s broke off and thin.
9. Do know that your hair is beautiful regardless
of what society deems as good hair or beautiful. The
bible describes Jesus hair was like Wool, last time I checked Wool ain’t straight, I’ll take after Jesus any
10. I do know I ain't yall’s mama but I think this list will help somebody! Lol :o)
You don’t have to agree with what I’m saying and I always
look for you to comment so please share your thoughts at the bottom of the
Laughter is good for the soul, Until Next Time!
Products That Work for My Hair – Updated
The products in the photos are my staples meaning I use them consistently and I don’t plan on changing them any time soon! The products are in the order that I use them!
I am a creature of habit and when I find something that works I stick with it. Being this way has prevented me from becoming a product junkie. Yes in the beginning of my hair journey I changed hair products like I changed my shoes but having perfected my hair regimen and knowing what my hair likes I know longer have to try 50 new products and drain my pocket.
I have been using the Crème of Nature shampoo and conditioner for over a year now. I’ve been using jojoba oil for almost a year and I have been using the Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting butter for about 5 months now. The newest product I’ve incorporated is the Camille Rose Naturals Curl Love Moisture Milk this product is replacing my Shea Moisture Leave In. I find the Moisture Milk provides more moisture to my hair and I love the ingredients.
These products work on my hair and because they work for me does not mean they will work for you and that’s okay our hair textures are different and will require different products!
You heard of the LOC method (liquid, oil, cream) well I use the MCO method (moisturize = water based product leave in etc. ,Cream= twisting butter etc., Oil) this method seals in the moisture better!
Coming up I will be reviewing some products sent to me from Jessicurl their Cleanser and Deep Conditioner so stay tuned!
God Bless! :o)
What Determines a Defined Twist Out??
I've been stopped many times by women asking
how I get my hair to look so defined and shiny when wearing a Twist Out; they
actually say “How do I get my hair to look like that?” I often proceed to
tell them what product I use on my hair. After thinking about this, I realize
it's more than just the product other factors come into play when wanting to
achieve a defined Twist Out.
This led me to come up with a list of five
things I feel that can make a difference in achieving a defined Twist Out!
When trying to get a defined Twist Out you
should look for products that have some type of hold, provides moisture and
have oils in the ingredients. I always
go for styling products that are water based.
Water should be the first ingredient you see. Water helps to retain moisture in your hair.
Stay away from styling products that have a lot of alcohol based ingredients
because they can be drying to the hair which can cause breakage.
I love the Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting butter because it provides a soft to medium hold and does not leave my hair rock hard. The holding agent within the product will help with the definition of your hair.
Last but not least the product should contain some oils; oils not only help seal in moisture but can provide shine to the hair!
If you have kinky, curly, wavy, straight or
tightly coiled natural hair matters in regards to how defined your Twist Out
will be. For example, a person with
a looser curl pattern and whose hair is fine may not have a twist out that is
well defined or full looking. Also this
type of texture may not hold twists well.
3.How Loose or Tight You Twist Your Hair
When wanting to achieve a Twist Out do not
twist your hair loose. You want to twist kind of tight/firmly if that
makes since. Start your twist as close
to your scalp as possible and make sure they don’t unravel once you get to the
ends. If your hair keeps unraveling then you need to twist your hair a
little tighter and possibly apply a little more product.
4.Doing Twists on Damp versus Dry Hair
When I want to achieve a super defined Twist
Out I always do my twist on wet/damp hair. To me doing twists on damp
hair is always better and results in less frizzy hair (tie hair down
with a silk scarf after you’ve finished twisting). You can let your twists air dry, this is what
I do or you can sit under a dryer (ain't nobody got time for that)!:o)
5.How Long You Leave Your Twist In
Always leave your twists in for at least a
day or two before taking them down. I never take my twists down if my
hair is still wet and I usually leave my twists in for 24 to 48 hours before
taking them down. For instance if I do my hair on a Friday I won’t take
my twists down until Sunday.
So the next time someone asks
you how did you get your hair to look like that? Take that moment to educate
them if they have the time as it relates to hair texture, product usage etc.
and I guarantee they will appreciate it!
Don’t forget to leave a comment at the bottom of this page I will love to hear from you!
Until next time God Bless!
Natural Hair and Time
How many hours on your wash day do you spend in the bathroom? How many times a week do you co-wash your hair? How many times has your husband/boyfriend, kids or family said you take too long doing your hair? Well welcome to the life of a natural!
It seems that after going natural I have to plan when I can do my hair. On wash day I don’t even cook dinner because I usually do my hair during the work week. My poor hubby has to fend for himself on this day! It takes me at least 4 or 5 hours to go through my whole regimen.
Guess what though trading 5 hours for seven to eight days is not that bad!
Since I spend so much time on that 1 day devoted to my hair I make sure to create a style that will last more than a week which means I am literally making my time work for me!
I implore you to try and create styles that will last through the week. These styles are the type where you can just tie your hair up at night and take the scarf off in the morning and go.
Styles that last:
1. Two strand twist styles
2. Chunky Twist out Styles – Twist hair back up atnight and take down in the morning I know this is work but since the twist are large it won’t take no time.
3. Roll, tuck and pin styles or the old school term an updo
I guarantee these styles will give you some time back.
Until Next Time Ladies!
I’ve noticed since my hair has gotten longer I have more single strand knots. I know that these knots are not only due to my hair getting longer but how I wash my hair.
On my wash day I just hang my head under the water lather my hair up and go to town using both hands to massage that shampoo in not caring if my hair is tangling in the process. When I get to the step in my regimen to detangle my hair it takes forever and I have to cut out any single strand knots. I know it’s because of how I shampoo my hair and if I’ve worn my hair in a certain style like a wash n go, twist out or puff that can cause these single strand knots. Curly natural hair is more prone to get them.
I want to retain length and prevent having so many knots I’ve decided it’s time to start washing my hair in sections and doing more pre-poo’s amongst other things.
Below are some TIPS on how to prevent single strand knots:
1. Wear your hair in stretched styles
2. Say no to the wash n go or do it sparingly
3. Wear protective styles
4. Wash your hair in sections
5. Keep your hair moisturized
6. Get your ends trimmed do not hold on to splitends
7. Cut the knots out right above the knot and donot rip them out
8. Seal your ends with oil
I hope these tips are helpful!
Talk to me in the comments section below and tell me if your dealing with single strand knots and how do you combat them?
Until Next Time Ladies God Bless!
Are you alarmed at how much your hair sheds? Do you panic when you shampoo/co-wash your hair and you see hair in the sink or tub? Do you say What Tha...... (Lol) after detangling your hair with your wide tooth comb and see hair in it? Well don’t fret it’s natural for your hair to shed.
Our hair on average will shed 50 – 100 hairs a day that totals 350 hairs a week if you go with the low number (that’s 50x7 in case you are wondering).
Shedding is natural and everyone who has hair experiences it. If you wash your hair every 7-10 days with no combing/manipulation in between, then the hair you loose on wash day is shed hair.
Our hair grows in three phases
- Anagen is when our hair is active and when a new hair is formed and grows up out of our scalp.
- Catagen is the phase when our hair is in transition. This phase will last anywhere from two to three weeks.
- Telogen is when the hair is resting and can last for about100 days. When we comb or manipulate our hair during this phase is when we loose shed hair. After the Telogen phase then the cyclerepeats itself!
Shed hair like the photo to the right will have a solid white bulb at the root. If the hair is breakage it will not have the white bulb.
If you are combing your hair and large amounts come out in patches or chunks I would suggest going to see a dermatologist or it could be a simple fix such as changing your diet.
1.Remember be gentle when combing your hair. Now that you are natural your hair is even more fragile.
2.Detangle your hair in small sections when wet and never detangle your hair when dry.
3.Use a wide tooth comb or your fingers if you’ve mastered that.
4.Incorporate a pre-poo into your regimen if necessary.
5.Certain styles like wash n go styles can create tangles and single strand knots and may cause hair breakage so do them sparingly.
What Is Your Hair Type?
Have you ever looked at the hair type chart 4A, 4B, 4C and realized I am a mixture of all three or realized you didn’t fall into any of the categories or have you gotten so caught up in hair typing that you can’t stop comparing your hair texture to other naturals?
In the beginning of my natural journey I use to compare my hair to others. I would wish my hair wasn’t so dry and wished it had a natural shine to it then as I matured and learned to love my hair and care for my hair I was no longer a slave to this hair typing system.
My hair type is no type because I no longer buy into the hype. I have kinks, zig zags, curls and coils. My hair when wet soaks up water like a sponge and with no product applied sits on my head like a dry cotton ball. It’s true I can do a so called wash n go if I apply a leave in and gel then let my hair air dry over night before going out the next day but I’ve never been able to get out the shower shake my hair and go, have you?
My hair has a mind of its own it may start out flat with waves due to a twist out but let heat/humidity hit my hair and it rises like a cake!
I’ve learned not to compare my hair to others because it’s unique to me and I can appreciate the diversity of hair types in the natural hair community.
My advice to you if you are newly natural or if you’ve been natural for a while but struggle with this issue is:
1. Don’t get caught up in hair typing
2. Learn to work with the hair that grows out ofyour head
3. Don’t compare your hair to others
4. Don’t be upset if your hair is not curly 5. Learn to enjoy your natural journey
Until Next Time!
The Rate Our Hair Grows
Our hair usually grows at least six inches a year but it could grow more than six inches a year when you factor in DNA and your diet. This means the average rate of hair growth in a month is ½ inch per month, which means our hair is constantly growing!
Three major things can have a negative effect on how our hair grows and can cause it to slow down they are:
3. Unhealthy Diet
4. Sleep Deprivation
If you notice your hair is not growing or the rate of growth has slowed down look into the things listed above and try to work on that area.
Ways you can prevent breakage or hair loss is by implementing the following:
1. Eat Healthy
2. Cut back on your caffeine intake
3. Don’t over use heat
4. Make sure to massage your scalp
5. Be gentle when combing your hair
6. Make sure to deep condition your hair
7. Avoid protein overload
8. Get your ends trimmed
9. Don’t over condition your hair
10.Use a Sulfate Free Shampoo
11.Wear Protective Styles
12.Always wear a satin bonnet to bed
13.Don’t braid your hair tight
14.Try and keep your hands out of your hair in other words don’t play in your hair
15. Seal in the Moisture with a good oil and keep your hair moisturized
I think that you will have a healthy hair journey with a successful growth rate if you take heed to the things I listed above!
Until Next time!
Going Back To A Relaxer???
I know I probably scared you with that title but wait a minute! Lol
At times do you feel like giving up on this natural hair thing and going back to the creamy crack known as a Relaxer, well I do. I get that urge sometimes to get a fly hair cut and a Perm. My husband even said he misses my relaxed hair and he would like for me to go back to a perm.
I miss spending maybe an hour or less on my hair instead of spending 2 to 4 hours. I do treasure the times when I could just run a comb through my hair whether wet or dry or go outside and not worry about my hair shrinking up and looking like cotton ball gone haywire! :o)
With all this said I will never go back to relaxed hair because I Love My Natural Hair and I wish I would have gone natural earlier in life.
For those of you who are at your breaking point and thinking about getting a relaxer DON’T DO IT reasons below:
- Think about why you went natural in the first place and how your hair/scalp has benefited from it!
- Think about the people in your life that you may have influenced to go natural or that little girl who now loves her kinks and curls because her mommy rocks an Afro.
- Think about the men in your life who look at you differently because you have made a decision not to hide behind the wigs, weaves or perms.
- Think about how fly you look with your short natural hair while you show off those high cheek bones!
- Think about the versatility you now have with natural hair and part of that versatility is being able to wear your hair straight if you like.
- Think about how going natural with your hair has now caused you to even be more conscious about what you put in your body.
- Think about who gave you your hair and that HE(God) didn’t make a mistake.
Until Next Time Ladies!
How to Achieve Healthy Hair
1.Trim Your Ends (Split Ends)
If you have split ends they will cause more tangles and knots in your hair. Trimming your ends will make your hair look and feel better and it’s good for hair growth.
2.Moisturize Your Hair
If your hair is natural it is essential to moisturize your hair to keep it from being dry and brittle.
Make sure that the moisturizer you use is water based. You can moisturize your hair each day or as needed.
Always give yourself a good scalp massage at least once a week. Scalp massages stimulate the blood circulation and can promote hair growth.
Try taking a break from the twist outs, puffs, afros etc. and wear your hair up in a protective style such as the one in my latest video. These styles will last longer and they will help you keep your hands out of your hair!!
5.Don’t Abuse Hair Color
If you decide to color your hair make sure to use a natural hair color if you can or one that has certified natural ingredients like the one I used by Crème of Nature. Also don’t apply the color too often but only when needed. Make sure to keep your hair moisturized and deep condition your hair once a week.
6.Eat Healthy Foods
Eating certain foods can be good for your hair such as: Dark green vegetables, Salmon, Beans, Nuts, Poultry, Eggs, Carrots, and Yogurt
7.Have Patience With Your Hair
When combing your hair be gentle with it do not and I repeat do not comb your hair roughly.
Combing your hair roughly will cause breakage.
8.Stay Away From Heat
Heat is the curly, kinky, coily girl’s enemy if not used with caution. You can get heat damage if you flat iron your hair too often or do too many blow outs.
Heat can cause your coils to go straight or loose their definition. When I got my hair flat ironed in October 2012 I loved it but when I washed my hair I noticed a small section and I mean a very small section of my hair had a looser curl pattern.
So be warned heat is not your friend if used to often.
Are you obsessed with growing long hair since going natural? Do you take tape measures or rulers to measure the length of your hair each month? Do you have a t-shirt with lines down the back with inches next to it or abbreviations for clb (collar bone length) bsl (bra strap length) mtl (mid-thigh length whatttt) etc. to see how long your hair is? Is your dream to have waist length hair? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are LENGTH OBSESSED!
For me I want my hair to be healthy and that means taking the necessary steps to ensure that I take care of my hair. I believe if I nurture my hair properly then the length will come and that includes trimming my ends when needed. I am guilty of doing a length check every now and again for my videos, but I am not obsessed because I like short and long hair. I realize that my hair is growing at a great rate but I’m the type of person that will cut my hair off if I get the urge!
I feel psychologically black women wanting long hair stems from seeing others races with long hair especially when we were young. For example the child with the long “good hair” seemed to be favored over the child with the “kinkier” shorter hair or the black woman with long hair may be given more attention that the woman with the short hair cut. Every black woman probably knows someone or it could have been you, who put the towel or t-shirt on her head swinging it back and forth pretending it was her long flowing hair. (I did it :o))
I know many naturals keep track of their hair growth because their hair is growing at a better rate than when it was relaxed. Many African American women have realized that our hair in its natural state will grow to great lengths but in the process of going natural many have become length obsessed.
We must realize that hair growth is determined by:
3. Styling Techniques
4. What you eat – Your Diet
5. Your Health
6. Hair Care Maintenance
If you are guilty of length obsession, I challenge you to put down the ruler, take off the special t-shirt, throw away the hair length terms and just enjoy your natural journey!
That Promote Healthy Hair
We all have taken the time to find the right natural products for our hair, but what about putting forth the same effort or initiative, when it comes to what we put in our bodies. Below are the 10 foods you should incorporate into your diets for healthy hair.
I love love love Salmon, we eat this in our household at least once a week, I
bake Salmon fillets or I make Salmon patties. Salmon is filled with vitamin B-12 and Iron.
Dark Green Vegetables
Broccoli and Spinach for instance. I make a great Spinach dip and I also like spinach salads with, bell pepper, cucumber, carrots and tomatoes!
I really like Green Beans and when I make chili I add Kidney Beans to it.
Cashews are my favorite nuts, but you can eat almonds and pecans as well.
We eat Chicken a lot but also Turkey. I make Turkey Taco’s, Turkey Burgers, Turkey Chili, Turkey Spaghetti and baked Turkey Wings Mmmmmmmmm!! :o) Poultry will give Protein that hair needs.
Now I don’t like eggs unless I eat them at Crackel Barrel! Lol Eggs give us Protein and Vitamin B-12.
Whole wheat bread, which is the only kind I eat is a great whole grain.
Oysters provide us with zinc
Low-Fat Dairy Products
Skim-Milk and Yogurt provide great calcium. I do not drink Skim-Milk but I love Yogurt especially Yoplait.
Carrots are an awesome, especially when dipped in a little ranch dressing or you can add them to your salad. Carrots provide Vitamin A, which promotes good vision and healthy hair.
So ladies, incorporating a good diet into your natural hair journey will only benefit you more!! :o)